Most of my childhood since I hit middle school age was a constant battle with weight. I would always wonder, why was I the girl who could not eat what she wanted and get away with not exercising like many of the girls that I knew? But I eventually figured out on three different occasions that I was the only one who could take control of my life and that could make the changes to myself that I wanted. Plus I had to realize that everyone’s body is different and I will never be exactly the same as the next person ever. This most recent time I figured out that three times is a charm and my mindset of being healthy was something that had to be permanent. Two prior times of changing my eating habits ended up being something I got used to within 2 years of starting them. Then somehow I always ended up going back to my old ways because I got way too comfortable with myself being in shape. I figured that since I loss weight I could go back to my old eating ways and still work out a lot. This would have been possible is I put in enough effort in to keep my goals and not use every excuse that I could come up with to not continue the healthy lifestyle that I started. This time I look back on my two previous failed plans of a healthy lifestyle from the ages of 16 until 23 and then realized that I could have kept living this life forever. Then I think, is it really worth it to put in all this effort in then later on go back to my unhealthy and comfortable old ways?

So as of this past December I made a promise to myself to get in shape for my well being as a woman, wife, and mother. Since making this promise to myself I have lost 15 pounds to date, and are continuing on until I feel I am at a healthy size. I admit that I was a hypocrite,  I would always cook healthy for my child and then get mad if she did not want to eat certain foods that I knew were good for her. Come on, how can I tell her what is bad for her to eat and to only eat in moderations when I do not always follow what I preach? I figured that kids only learn from what they see around them. I have to be the best role model for her if I want what I preach to be in effect for everyone completely. I have taken some before and during the process of my weight loss journey pictures, but I want to do a end results final words with the pictures included after I am completely finished. Currently I am not on the Weight Watchers diet officially, but I do purchase many of their meals often. I can say that their meals are very tasty, filling, and something that I am getting very used to eating on a daily basis. You don’t have to buy every single thing in your home completely healthy, but you do have to learn to eat healthy to live a long life though. I am still getting full and tasty foods all in one at the end of the day.

So being said, here are a few attached pictures of some of the items that I eat on a regular basis and that are my favorites if you are interested. I am not endorsed in any way by any of the companies or products mentioned. These opinions are all from my personal experiences only!!

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As I sit each time a new year starts, I think about how life was the year before and many years before that. The beginning and end of the year is the time I always ponder hard about my life from every aspect. I look at how many obstacles in life I have over come financially, physically, and mentally during this time; and it makes me proud to say that I am over these issues. I had a hard life growing up from childhood up until about junior year in high school as I have stated in another post. The experiences I went through only made me a better person and strong enough to handle anything that comes my way in life.

Some people do have never experienced not even a percentage of what I have in my life, so if a situation arises that I have experienced they may not take it well. I always think that whatever you go through in life there is always a lesson with it, rather it be positive or negative. Here is a list of my experiences in life that I do not think any child should have to ever go through no matter what. I have been homeless when I was a  child with my family, financially broken from childhood until I left home on my own at 18 years old, experienced my Mother’s raft of alcohol abuse until Fall of 2011, dealt with my family not having a close relationship many times in my life, and not being able to have a normal childhood because of these consequences that come from poor decisions made on my parents behalf, and not having a relationship in any form with my Father .

These are most of the major trials that I have been in life, but I never let them break me ever. I have learned that if I never would have been through these things, then I would not be able to give advice to others about these topics. People want advice from someone they can relate in many situations that they go through in their life, not someone who can try to understand their pain without experience. I truly believe that some people in the world can be cruel for no reason and judge you based off of assumptions. Some do not know that assumptions can hurt people more when they are going through trials in their life and no one knows or understands that person who is being judged upon pain. One of my motivations for writing this recently was thinking about my daughter and how she will be each year she grows older since her birthday in May will be here in no time. Also thinking about what type of parents my husband and I are, and how will we parent different from how we grew up as children.

I recently was on one of the social networks to try to promote my blog and just be nosy in others lives since I like to give advice to others. This happened this past Monday while on Twitter, I started following our President’s children because they came up in recommended people to follow along with The President and his wife. So I said why not give it a try and plus it was inauguration day, I can find a way to see what was happening with their family inside and outside of the cameras. I noticed that the older daughter “Malia” was dealing with some issues with the media I am assuming, being so hard on her because of assumptions from their parent’s point of views and what pictures looked like. She experienced at some point yesterday I guess, someone or people being hateful to her about reasons unknown to her. I tweeted back to her a piece of motivation that I say to myself and have passed on to a few others when someone is judging you off of assumptions when all they know is your name, and have little info about you if even that. Well she liked my tweet with the advice and it made me happy that I was able to help a young lady going through a problem with people being hateful.

Just because of my life experiences from her childhood until now as an adult, I feel like I have grown a lot of tough skin to give people advice and motivation to ignore people being just plain mean for no clear reason. My point is that sometimes when you give advice, you never know who you give it to and what way you can touch them no matter who it is. Life experiences that you have can turn in stories that you can share with others so that they can know there is someone else who understands their problems.

If anyone in interested and is cheesy as me about the tweet, please feel free to click the link below. LOL

https://twitter.com/Purple_malia13/status/293882579898204161

I try my best not to get frustrated that often on a daily basis. But unfortunately sometimes life takes turns and curves that causes you to feel this way more often than you want to. When I do get angry or frustrated it is for a reason always as it is for everyone else. I do find myself many times pausing to think what is the core of my feelings and why did I let it take me to the point of having negative feelings. Usually I have the issue of letting a minor detail in a situation that I get myself into of making myself think above and beyond than what I should be. Some people may call this being a drama queen, but I am obsessed with begin as close to perfect as possible. I know this may be impossible most of the time, but this is a way of life that I have personally accustomed myself to since I was a kid. My mentality many times is that life is too short to get that angry over the small things in life. I just tend to get upset over major things that seem like they will be out of my control if I cannot grasp every concept of the situation. One example is when I take a class and fail one assignment, I tend to know in my head that I will fail the whole class. Instead I could think that I need to redo the assignment or figure out other methods to make sure I pass the next major assignment. I am the type of person that pays a lot of attention to detail and the indepth part of things. Another example is, when I get in a bad mood immediately when I count more than two things going wrong in my life. I feel like when more than two things go wrong, that my whole day is ruined and the world needs to know.

I realize that life is not perfect and will not go as you always want it to be, but a person like myself thinks that my day is not meant to be good when my day does not start off well. I guess that frustration really just comes from our inner feelings and how much tolerance we have for something in general at the end of the day. There are people out there who can experience a million and one problems a day and just stay calm each time. Then I think to myself at tiems why am I not this tolerant during many situations that I go through in life. I know I am not an angry monster always when I am frustrated, but there are some things that I wish I had more tolerance for. Then I do have to realize that everyone is different in their own ways and not every person can handle life the same way. I get that being frustrated and angry can be a challenge when you involve live ones voluntarily or not. Sometimes your mood can be from what someone else did on purpose on unintentionally.

This is the point that we a people should realize that our actions and reactions are somethign that we can control on our own. We should never let someone or something take us to a place mentally or physically that in negative unless you are the type of person that believes some actions are uncontrollable. I do not condone violence or negative behavior ever at any point in any situation personally. The feeling of self control and making decisions that have positive outcome is a great feeling to have honestly. Frustration or having a bad mood in never an excuse for making choices that you may possibly regret or second guess your actions for in the future.  The point that I am trying to make is that maybe by allowing ourself to be frustrated too often or just in a bad mood is something that we can control if we put in the mental indset to do so before we act.